So someone said to me that you can never meet a good person off the Internet. I want to prove them wrong. Reblog if you’ve met someone from the Internet and they’ve turned out to be one of the best people to ever exist.
When some Evangelical magazines and websites wrote snarky things about my participation in my gay son’s wedding, several prominent Evangelicals contacted me in private and said, “You did the right thing.” One told me that the hardest part of his job as a denominational executive was hearing from the parents of gay children who were driven out of churches in his denomination. He couldn’t change the denomination without splitting it, he said, and he was glad that he could retire soon because he couldn’t stand the agony of being part of causing pain for so many gay people and their families. A charismatic leader told me had had performed a wedding in private for his gay grandson. People would be shocked how many people seem to support the status quo by their public silence, but privately aren’t there.
You know what? I don’t care. I don’t care how much you disagree behind closed doors or in the privacy of your home with your family and inner circle. So what if that guy performed a wedding for his gay grandson? What about all the other gay grandsons and lesbian granddaughters and bisexual, transsexual, asexual sons and daughters and brothers and sisters who are suffering because their community rejects them while their family and their leaders sit silent? Just the fact that this quote and the conversation it goes with (yes I read the whole damn thing) exist means that there are other people like you. If the denomination splits over this, then let it split. Fuck ‘em.
"People would be shocked how many people seem to support the status quo by their public silence, but privately aren’t there."
You don’t SEEM to support it by your silence, YOU DO SUPPORT IT WITH YOUR SILENCE. Your silence is acquiesence. Your silence is agreement. Your silence says “yes.” If your heart says “no” then so should your mouth. I know all the reasons that you don’t, I’ve heard it all before, and it’s all BS.
Hey Brian, next time you talk to you “Evangelical leader” friends? Tell them to put up or shut up. If they believe in something, they should be taking a stand for it. Tell them to use their power to make a difference in their community. Otherwise, I’m not interested, cause their private thoughts aren’t helping anybody.